The weather up here in this part of Washington I’m in this week continues to be wet and very windy, and though I am safe here, I hope things calm down considerably before the flight back to NC. At least today is in the 50’s rather than the 17 degrees it was in NC yesterday. *insert picture of imaginary Heidi-shaped ice sickle*

We’re getting plan options sorted through for the eventual move up here, and will be continuing to do work and plot out house stuff these last couple of days. The house is going to be even nicer to live in than it is currently being to stay in, since once I am here we can increase the pace of sorting through boxes, building shelves, and making things findable through the use of labeling and organizing.

I have people I get to take care of, who will make me take care of myself also. We’re going to balance each other out so well as housemates!

And now I have to emotionally prepare for six months of not getting long hugs, not being able to work on my people’s aches and pains, and being geographically isolated from everyone except blood family. Which is not great, really, but I will survive it.

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Fun archaeology quiz!

Floating - a drifty, ambient myNoise generator

I have been looking into how love fades away from relationships, and I think there are two things relevant to my last relationship's demise: The Third Thing in relationships

We did not spend our days gazing into each other’s eyes. We did that gazing when we made love or when one of us was in trouble, but most of the time our gazes met and entwined as they looked at a third thing. Third things are essential to marriages, objects or practices or habits or arts or institutions or games or human beings that provide a site of joint rapture or contentment. Each member of a couple is separate; the two come together in double attention. Lovemaking is not a third thing but two-in-one. John Keats can be a third thing, or the Boston Symphony Orchestra, or Dutch interiors, or Monopoly.

Ghost and I had multiple Third Things when we started dating, and none left by the time things limped to the sad, tired finish line of divorce.

Adrienne Rich on love

An honorable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” — is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other.

It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation.

It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity.

It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.

We were isolated together, he stopped responding to my bids for attention so I stopped reaching out or sharing deeper truths when none were offered to me. And it did not do justice to us as rich individuals to not share our inner lives.

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I'm going to edit this section with a bunch of GLP-1 links; y'all can ignore these unless you want to get super science-heavy with me.

Glucagon-like peptide-1 suppresses neuroinflammation and improves neural structure